Marriage is a union of two people that wants to settle down for the rest of their life. It comes with the excitement of been called Mr/Mrs, also in your marriage you totally begin a new journey which has no end until death. There has been lots of debate and discussions concerning the age difference when it comes to marriage.
Some people is of the opinion that age is just a number and you can marry whoever you want to irrespective of his/her age. I came in contact with a lady recently and as we were discussing, she told me that she is in her 40s and she supposed to get marry this past Easter to her fiancee who is 35yrs but something happened. According to her, her supposed fiancee sisters is the problem, one is 32 and the other one is 29 and both of them are still in their parents house, the girls said that since their brother is almost 10yrs younger than her then that marriage will never hold. They also told her that 'she is old enough to be her fiancee's mother', also that she should be ashamed of wanting to sleep with a guy she can give birth to. And I asked her what is the reactions from her supposed fiancee since all this family issue started, she said that the man really love her and is eager for them to get married as he does not care about their age differences. Now what makes me to bring that into this topic is the fact that 2 girls that doesn't know what future holds for them is fighting to destroy a union. What surprised me is the fact that they did not tell their brother that he is not ashamed to be sleeping with his mother's age mate. The debate about age difference in marriage is the one that never had a fruitful end. In igbo land, when a lady is older than her fiancee then people will start making lots of assumptions, some will accuse the lady of using (Juju) to hold the man or the man is marrying the lady because of her money, that is if the lady is financially stable. For them it is OK for a man to marry a girl that is 20yrs younger than him. If you didn't oppose older men getting married to younger girls then you should also support same when it comes to older women. In my opinion I think we should let people choose whoever they want to marry because it is the cross they are going to carry till death. It is foolish and unfair to decide for someone whom him/she will marry.
Marriage is about clicking together, understanding each other, loving each other and ready to accept each others weaknesses. Nobody knows how his or her marriage will turn out to be, you can only assume but you can't decide. Kindly share your insightful opinion on age difference in marriage in the comment section.***prbxselfnetwork***
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